Sauce for the goose II

Someone posed me these questions by email. Made me think...

"You are with a long term partner. You may be married. You may have children together. You do not want to jeopardise the relationship. Your sexual high points are now few and far between. You need her and don't want to lose her, but you sleep with escorts. "

Answer this multiple choice question:
How is my partner getting the same highs I get from escorting?

a) None - I am enough
I think that my sex drive outstrips hers but I am not foolish enough to think her horizons begin and end with me.

b) Masturbation on her own
Funny, I guess my wife must masturbate - it's just that I can't see her doing it (as in, it's difficult to imagine, not that she won't let me watch...). Yes, there is evidence (the moving vibrator) but I've never caught her "at it". Why don't we try sharing this? I find I get very embarassed wanking in front of someone - to the extent that I find it almost impossible to come. My wife is the same.

c) Imagining she's with someone else as we go through the motions
I hope we don't "go through the motions". Within the bounds of possibilities, likes, etc. we do mix it up quite a bit. I think for a couple that has been married as long as we have, we now have a pretty varied and fulfilling sex life.
Does she think of Brad Pitt while I'm shagging her? Well, I do look rather similar - though a little better looking, of course ;-). I don't know if she fantasises about someone else (she's never screamed out "Brad!" at an inappropriate moment) and I really don't care. If she wants to imagine that she is fucking some Adonis (and has a sufficiently powerful imagination to ignore the troll grunting on top of her) then good luck to her. No, I mean it. After all, I occassionally fantasise that I am screwing someone else... (Just as an aside, I do it more now than when I was sleeping with escorts - they provided the variety I craved, so I didn't need to imagine - and yes, I know that is a really BAD thing...).

d) Strangers, perhaps male escorts, friends / colleagues of mine
Ah, now we get to the tough stuff. I've said before that it would be fine if she had played away. But it doesn't leave me totally comfortable. She knows that I want sex all the time. She knows that I want to experiment. What is there that someone else would offer that I wouldn't (except variety)? The worrying answer is an emotional connection... That's an avenue that really concerns me. I know that I can separate an emotional connection from a sexual encounter but can she? In that way, I guess I'd be happiest if she saw a male escort. Friends would be really difficult - I'd prefer not to know; never to know.

g) Girlfriends who know how to hit the spot
Ohh. Can I join in? Nice thought but not my wife (but she has surprised me before...).

h) Porn
Ditto. One of my fantasies is to watch porn with my wife and suck/fuck each other into oblivion. But my wife hates porn. She started exploring my fantasies to stop me looking at porn. And as Bliatz points out, finding female friendly porn is quite difficult.

i) Joining me in my adventures
Yes... but no... but yes... She comes along on my journey of sexual exploration but not totally willingly. Some of my fantasies are probably a bit too extreme for her at the moment. For instance, I doubt threesome with a friend or an escort is something that she'd go for (though it is one of my fantasies...). This may need another post to explore...

j) Checking my bank statements and letting it go because she loves me so much
Not sure that the bank balance has any influence but the three angelic faces of our children have probably saved our marriage more than once.


Now, for all the men out there, what do you think your wives/girlfriends are up to?

Just a reality check for all those cheating husbands out there who believe they are so superior...

On a lighter note:

A loving couple was celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary, privately, at home with a couple of bottles of champagne. A bit tipsy and feeling very intimate the husband turns to his wife and asks, 'Tell me truthfully, have you ever been unfaithful to me?'
'Well,' she replied, 'since you ask, to tell you the truth I have been unfaithful on three occasions.'
'What? How could you?'
'Let me tell you about it,' she said. 'The first time was back when we were first married. You needed open heart surgery and we didn't have the money, so I went to bed with the surgeon and got him to operate for free.'
'Gee! That was noble of you. And, besides, I guess I should be grateful. But, tell me, what about the second time?'
'Do you remember that VP of Sales promotion you desperately wanted, and they were going to pass you over for someone else? Well, I went to bed with the President and he gave you the job.'
'Hell, I think I could have done it on my own. But, then again, I guess I should be grateful. And so, what about the third time?'
'Do you remember two years ago when you wanted to become president of the Golf Club, and you were missing 53 votes...'

Enjoy!